It is a choice to be abusive towards someone else. Ideally, we would say “people who have chosen to be abusive,” rather than “perpetrators,” “offenders,” or “abusers.” However, this is the terminology used in our courts, institutions and social services and is reflected as such on our site. Every abuser has a friend, a parent, or a loved one who would say “my son/brother/friend would never be abusive.” However, holding someone accountable for their decisions to be abusive is the first step a friend/loved one should take when they learn about abusive behavior.

• Community Intervention with an Abuser
• Is My Friend Abusive?
• Men Against Violence Policy (pdf)
• How to Screen for Perpetrators
• Reducing Victim Blaming
• Why Individual Therapy for Batterers is not Advised (pdf)
• Guys Getting Involved
• What Is Wrong with Mutual Orders of Protection(pdf)
• Alcohol and Sexual Assault (pdf)
• Abuser Accountability